Memories Note: I received this memory on July 31, 2001 and have
sat on it until now. I have decided to publish it with the names
x'ed out. I have no way of verifying the content but since 2001
I have received many similar emails asking how to find their birth
parents. For those who have been adopted I have some information.
New Jersey Boystown has some
records from Newark. their address is:
Adoption and Search
New Jersey Boystown
499 Bellgrove Drive
Kearny, N.J. 07032
Youth Consultation Services:
You can contact Kim Garfinkel at YCS at 973-395-0801 ext. 417 (records
for Newark Orphan Asylum, Newark Home for Foster Care, Home for
the Friendless and Protestant Foster Home).
Jane Nast runs Adoption Support Group at the Presbyterian Church
Parish House in Morristown and can be reached at 973-267-8698.
I saw on your web page that you were born in xxxxxxxxxx,
I was also born in that xxxxxxxxxx January 1962. I am
writing to let you know if you are not aware of the role xxxxxxxxxx
had in the unwed mother business. My mother was sent to the xxxxxxxxxx
home in Newark. She was housed there till my birth and she was told
she was not allowed to keep me even if she wanted to.
I have spoken to many adoptees who were born at xxxxxxxxxx
and it is clear they were doing a brisk business in helping to give
away members of peoples families. The xxxxxxxxxx had a
large role in directing these unfortunate pregnant girls to be hidden
away in Newark till they could deliver their babies and spare their
families the shame of out of wedlock birth. It was believed that
these pregnancies were a threat to the very fabric of morals of
society and the only way these mothers could make atonement for
this sin was to give their babies away to married couples and never
see them again thru closed adoption.
I have visited Newark to search for my roots and have been to the
hall of records and xxxxxxxxxx itself and was told that
yes I was born there but that I could not have any of my records
and that my birth mother didn't want me to ruin her life by finding
her. i was told this by a xxxxxxxxxx administrator. This
xxxxxxxxxx goes to the limit to keep these adoptees and
birth families apart.
I am very pleased to report that I did find my birth mother and
she has always wanted to know me and that walking out of that xxxxxxxxxx
empty handed was the worst day of her life. We now have a great
close relationship and I am writing to let you know about the dark
side of Newark and the baby hiding business this xxxxxxxxxx
was involved in and still protects. And that if I listened to that
xxxxxxxxxx administrator I would still be lost in the world
and that they should be ashamed to tell an adoptee their mother
doesn't want to see them.
My other adopted sister was born in Montclair at xxxxxxxxxx
and her secret we are still trying to crack. The site of that xxxxxxxxxx
on your web page makes my blood run cold and it makes me think of
when I was left there and the course of my life changed forever....